能为你兜底的那个人，永远不是别人。
<!----><style type="text/css">html{font-size:375%}</style><link href="https://pic.app.ytbbs.com/static/publish/css/style.css?v=20240712" rel="stylesheet" position="1" data-qf-origin="/static/publish/css/style.css?v=20240712"><!-- 付费贴--> <div class="preview_article "> <!----> <p>那个为自己兜底的人，永远，也只能是你自己。女性唯一的出路是好好工作，不是随便找个人结婚，与其扶他凌云志、不如自挣万两金。</p><p>父母都无法兜底的人生，怎么敢寄希望于没有血缘关系的陌生人来托付终生。女生首要的任务是脱贫，而不是脱单，有钱的意义在于你可以拥有更多接近幸福的权利。</p><p>你渴望被爱，归根到底就是你还没有学会爱自己。把自己重养一遍、去健身、去搞事业带着觉知的活着。但凡你体验过一次权力的滋味，你都不可能是恋爱脑，权力是女人最好的保养品，因为缺爱的本质是一样的失权。</p><p>婚姻，比想象中的还要不容易。很多人在未婚时，对婚姻充满各种美好幻想，觉得只要有爱、两个人在一起，剩下的问题自然就能迎刃而解。然而，真正踏入婚姻后，才会理解，现实里的相处远比恋爱复杂，每一天都在面对柴米油盐、财务分担、家庭责任、个性磨合与价值观的差异。两个人再相爱，也不可能时时刻刻没有摩擦、不会失望或挫折。</p><p>结婚是一个承诺，更像是一场共同学习与成长的长跑。每个人都会有情绪，会有自己的习惯与脆弱，生活里难免出现误会、争吵、甚至一度怀疑自己是不是做错决定。婚姻的难，不仅在于必须包容对方的不完美，更需要双方都有愿意一起努力、为家庭和彼此付出的觉悟。有时候遇到现实的压力、生活的重复，甚至会怀疑当初的爱是不是还在，其实这都是婚姻里很真实的挣扎。</p><p>然而，正因为婚姻比想象中难，所以每一次的体谅、沟通、妥协和陪伴，都显得无比珍贵。如果愿意一起面对问题、一起修补裂痕，也许未必长长久久都如童话般美好，但会比想象更有韧性、更有温度。幸福的婚姻，不是毫无波澜，而是愿意一起经历现实、共同成长，并且在困难中更加珍惜彼此。</p><p 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再去思考自己想要什么，一般就问题不大了。
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